Sexism is alive and well in academe.
A colleague recently expressed – for the “purpose of discussion” - skepticism that work-family conflict was a real problem – and if it were, it was not a universal problem – because some people – such as him - had wives to offer support.
That such comments are offered - even for "discussion” – make my stomach sink. He signaled a complete lack of understanding of the lived experiences of female colleagues - and that he felt ok making these comments in a public setting – signaled that there remains much to be done about sexism in academe.
My understanding of sexism in academe is rooted in my life as a single parent for the past 9 years. My life is rife with work-family conflict – ranging from demands for late-night calls or early morning meetings – to a potential employer sharing they would not work with my caregiving schedule – and would force me to work weekends if hired.
I am certain my female colleagues can share far more extreme experiences.
I've waited since the 1980s for academe to fix itself. I've grown impatient. So what to do?
For those willing to help fight sexism, I suggest a few steps.
First, when you see sexism at work, label it as such. Ask for an explanation for why such language or policies are allowed to persist in your workplace. If the explanation is not satisfactory, clearly explain to colleagues and administrators why you see a problem.
Second, don’t be afraid to speak out, particularly if someone asks for help. Even if tenured, victims of sexism often feel helpless. Publicly speaking out helps let others know it is ok to speak out.
Third, recognize that you aren’t a knight in shining armor. Your job is not to save a hapless victim. Your job is to create a climate where it is ok for victims of sexism to speak up on their own behalf, and to support them when they do.
Fourth, be patient. It takes a lot of effort to be heard. That does not mean let sexism persist. It does mean that it may require extra time and effort to change minds.
Fifth, think of fighting sexism as a multi-round game. It doesn’t pay to burn bridges in the first round. If disagreements occur, keep the conversation civil, because you will need help in the future.
Finally, remember, particularly if you are in a position of power, it takes a lot of courage to speak up about sexism. Be it a woman or a man speaking up, they aren’t doing so because they want attention. They are doing so because they must. So, work with them to bring positive change to the academe.
If we all take these steps, hopefully, the next generation of academics, that my daughter aspires to join, will not have to live in an inequitable academic world.
And my colleague may get, it’s not ok to make sexist comments – even for the purpose of provoking a conversation.
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